In Support of J.D. - A view of the other side

 

Why J.D. is the better man for Jordan: An argument in support of JD Pollack
Presented by: Jennifer and Lara

Opening Statement:
J.D. opened up Jordan. He came swooping in, a bit arrogant, but he was a breath of fresh air to Jordan. He didn’t dance around her. He didn’t do her every beck and call. He didn’t try to stay on her good side. He argued with her, he challenged her, he pushed her buttons: He showed his true self from the moment he appeared in Jordan’s life.

JD proved to be the man Jordan needed.

Qualities JD brings to the table:
He’s considerate and caring. For example in Total Recall when he brings Jordan coffee in bed (I won’t mention that it took Wood longer to make it that far than it did JD. Four years of trying, and he’s just managed to…) to please her. He tries to do things that will make Jordan happy, without submitting to her.

He believes in himself and this makes their partnership much more of an equal one. They both stand on the same pedestal, not one above the other. It’s not a give and take relationship that’s one-sided. It’s a mutual sharing, of giving and taking. It’s a healthy relationship.

JD is independent. He doesn’t cling or need to be with Jordan every moment to feel secure. He gives Jordan her space, but at the same time makes sure she knows he’s always there whenever she needs him.

When Jordan and JD had an argument he didn’t get pout’y’. He didn’t act boyish. He argued back. He made his point heard, then he let it go and moved on. They had a healthy relationship. It wasn’t all chocolate and flowers. There were happy times, there were some sad times, frustrating times, and out right angry times, but they had a strong enough respect and understanding of each other to deal with it—as most healthy relationships are able to do.

Why/How JD has made a difference in Jordan’s life:
JD brought Jordan into her first serious relationship since college: a moment long over due for Jordan.

JD makes Jordan laugh. He’s brought some happiness to Jordan’s life, a life that has been a bit sad, frustrating, and definitely difficult at times.

JD pushed Jordan’s buttons. He knew how to get a reaction out of her, but he also was able to get her to see how her actions affect their relationship. A major stepping point for Jordan. For once, she realized when she was running and was able to come to terms with her inner demons and stop the destructive behavior. And JD understood of these moments. He didn’t go running when doubts littered Jordan’s mind. He stuck it out.

JD openly romanced Jordan, although he was nervous about it at first, for example the scene in Total Recall between Jordan, JD and Nigel, after Jordan gives him the green light, JD spends the subsequent episodes openly romancing Jordan at the morgue, they do not keep their relationship a secret and are open to displaying their affection for each other, see Man in Blue. Jordan returned happily returned these affections, for example in Road Kill, in the scene outside the jail.

He earned Jordan’s trust…she did after all give him a key to her place. No other man has received that honor.

At the end of their relationship JD was kind and understanding, and despite having some very angry feelings towards Jordan at the jail, the bittersweet moment between the two characters at Jordan’s apartment was an illustration of his understanding and love towards Jordan.

JD was open and honest with Jordan; he called her on her faults but also allowed her to be who she is, even if he didn’t agree with her. He was open with Jordan and despite needing her he didn’t crowd her and he let her chase her crusades and supported her.

And on a minor note, we must add that JD has introduced Jordan to a wide range of (awesome) Australian wine.

Why we believe JD is the better man for Jordan:
JD is the better man for Jordan because he broke down some of her walls and allowed her to start to open her heart again. He drove some of her demons away, a feel no other man has accomplished up to this point. And it was a mutual wanting. Jordan truly tried to become a new person with JD. She willing opened herself up to JD. Something she’s never done with any other man.

JD supported Jordan in everything she did, even if he didn’t particularly agree with her. He understood her relationships with her co-workers and Woody. In Road Kill he didn’t like her decision to spend time with a psychopath but he supported her decision and was there when she needed him to be.

JD let Jordan know his feelings, openly expressing them and not demanding anything in return. He made sure Jordan knew how important she was in his life.

JD acted like a man, at the end of their relationship he walked away with his pride still intact. He knew that Jordan’s feelings towards Woody were going to be a barrier in their future so he turned his back on the relationship despite his broken heart. But in the end he left like a man.

And a few closing remarks:
When Jordan started running, JD didn’t pressure her. Prime example: Martha’s Vineyard. He knew that time and patience was needed. He couldn’t stop her from running. He knew to give her the space she needed, the reassurance she craved and understand she hadn’t had up to this point.

JD proved to be the man Jordan needed. Through actions, through words, and simple silence and caring. JD opened Jordan up to the possibility/realization that she could love a man, that she could have a healthy relationship.

JD was truly the better man. JD loved Jordan: with all her faults, her good points, and annoying points. JD loved Jordan for who she was, without trying to change her. And that is what makes JD the better man.